Life's a journey not a destinationLife’s a journey not a destination. We hear this often and yet when people seek out a Tarot reader or psychic for guidance, there is often an assumption that their life is predetermined and they want to find out what their future is. At best they will see the information they get from their Tarot reading as a point of view that sheds new light on a situation. At worst they will take what has been said to them as gospel.

Your life is not predetermined.

To quote the teachings of Abraham Hicks: “If you were able to come forth in a physical body and never think another thought then we would say the psychic coding or the timing of your birth would pretty well establish who you are going to be forever more. But since you have the ability in every moment of your day to think, and therefore to attract and therefore to alter the future experience, then we would say we would not put too much value upon (the psychic etc) other than to let it serve as a guide to help you identify where you are relative to where you want to be.”

The way to get the most value out of a Tarot reader or psychic or anything else of a similar nature for that matter is to listen to the reading and if it is good news, embrace it and anticipate it (based on the fact that this feels good). If it is bad news, sift through it and let it help you acknowledge what you don’t want, and then identify what you do want, then begin giving your full attention to what you do want. As the saying goes, energy flows where attention goes, so if you are clammed up worrying about what a reader said to you at some stage you have missed the opportunity of how that reading could have helped you identify exactly what you want.

Life's a journey not a destination

It’s about connection to your true self first.

First and foremost it is most important to develop your connection with your own inner being and come to trust your gut feelings and intuition before you listen to a reader of any sort. There is no predestined plan for you because at your very core you are a creator and free to create your life any way you choose.

What can get in the way is limiting beliefs about what your life should look like or be, or projected fears about things not working out. So, your job is to use your attention to narrow down your focus on the things that you want, and let go of the worries and fears about what you don’t want.

The value of a Tarot reading.

The value of a Tarot reading or other kind of reading is that it can provide an example of what possibilities are present for you when you are connected to your higher self. It is about seeking inspiration to act or narrow down some choices you are considering around a certain direction you want to go. When a Tarot reader is telling you certain things about your life, the way to know if it is a direction you should go in is if what they are saying feels resonate to you. Does it feel good? Does it feel right in your gut?

A  Tarot reading should not leave you feeling disempowered. If you have gone to a Tarot reader asking something like ‘does he love me? Does he love his new girlfriend more than he loved me? Or ‘Will he come back to me?’ Then you are not taking full responsibility for your own happiness or life. If you need a Tarot reader to tell you something like this, you are disconnected from your own power and self confidence. Why do I say this? Because I know first hand! When I was doubting my connection to my true self, these are the kinds of questions I might have asked a Tarot reader. When I look back on that now I see how much I lacked confidence in myself and a connection to my inner being. A more constructive question to ask around this kind of relationship question is ‘What would be helpful to know about this relationship?’ And even better: ‘What do I need to learn about myself around this relationship?’

Life's a journey not a destinationTarot shows you future probabilities, not absolutes.

The value of a reading is also around probabilities. For example, gaining insight into a certain situation like ‘if I take this action, what might be the outcome?’ Or, “I am working on this….is there anything I would benefit knowing in order to make the best of it?’ See how these questions are driven by something you have already chosen to do rather than passively sitting back and letting someone else ‘tell’ you what your life is all about. You can still get value out of this passive approach, but a helpful way to see it is ‘if you don’t choose something different, this is likely to be the result’.

You decide first what you want, then use the Tarot and any other kind of divination tool to help maximise  what it is you are trying to achieve with some wisdom to help you along the way. And if by chance you have been given a reading where the news is bad, then use it as a way to identify what you don’t want and therefore enable you to figure out what you do want and then focus on that instead. Just because a reader said something to you doesn’t make it true-whether that be good news or bad news. At the end of the day, you make it true.

You can’t control what others will do.

However,when it comes to seeking information around other people in your life, keep in mind you can’t control what anyone else does-you can only hope to be an influence to other people, and the best way to be an influence is to be connected to your true self. If other people are a resonate match to your true self, they will naturally be in your life. So when you bring the focus back onto yourself where your happiness is not dependent on ‘that person coming back to you’ or ‘meeting that special someone’, you have taken responsibility for your life.

As hard as it is to imagine sometimes, we really do create from our present reality rather than blindly following some predestined plan for our lives. Sure, according to numerology and astrology and the like we may have some dominant vibratory patterns that influence us along the way just like our genetic coding from our parents, but they are not our destiny. Even mainstream science is confirming from the study of epigenetics that our biology is not our destiny and our gene expression is influenced by our lifestyle choices and even the habitual thoughts and emotions we ‘practice’ on a daily basis.

Taking full responsibility for your life.

But this knowledge is actually scary to some people as they realise they have to take full responsibility for their lives. As Marianne Williamson says ‘Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure”. And why would this be our deepest fear? Because it means we can no longer sit back and play a role where we are helpless and can do nothing about our circumstances. We actually have to do something!

Getting a Tarot reading can be very empowering.

So, at the core of it, a Tarot reading really is for entertainment purposes. This doesn’t mean it has no value. A good reading can be empowering and enlightening and help unlock your greatest potential, but it is not the final deciding factor of your life. YOU get to decide that with the information you have gained from the reading itself. As a general rule, if the information you have received feels good, then go towards that! But if it doesn’t feel good, use that information and decide what you would prefer instead and go towards that without doubts.

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