Life’s a journey not a destination.

Life's a journey not a destinationLife’s a journey not a destination. We hear this often and yet when people seek out a Tarot reader or psychic for guidance, there is often an assumption that their life is predetermined and they want to find out what their future is. At best they will see the information they get from their Tarot reading as a point of view that sheds new light on a situation. At worst they will take what has been said to them as gospel.

Your life is not predetermined.

To quote the teachings of Abraham Hicks: “If you were able to come forth in a physical body and never think another thought then we would say the psychic coding or the timing of your birth would pretty well establish who you are going to be forever more. But since you have the ability in every moment of your day to think, and therefore to attract and therefore to alter the future experience, then we would say we would not put too much value upon (the psychic etc) other than to let it serve as a guide to help you identify where you are relative to where you want to be.”

The way to get the most value out of a Tarot reader or psychic or anything else of a similar nature for that matter is to listen to the reading and if it is good news, embrace it and anticipate it (based on the fact that this feels good). If it is bad news, sift through it and let it help you acknowledge what you don’t want, and then identify what you do want, then begin giving your full attention to what you do want. As the saying goes, energy flows where attention goes, so if you are clammed up worrying about what a reader said to you at some stage you have missed the opportunity of how that reading could have helped you identify exactly what you want.

Life's a journey not a destination

It’s about connection to your true self first.

First and foremost it is most important to develop your connection with your own inner being and come to trust your gut feelings and intuition before you listen to a reader of any sort. There is no predestined plan for you because at your very core you are a creator and free to create your life any way you choose.

What can get in the way is limiting beliefs about what your life should look like or be, or projected fears about things not working out. So, your job is to use your attention to narrow down your focus on the things that you want, and let go of the worries and fears about what you don’t want.

The value of a Tarot reading.

The value of a Tarot reading or other kind of reading is that it can provide an example of what possibilities are present for you when you are connected to your higher self. It is about seeking inspiration to act or narrow down some choices you are considering around a certain direction you want to go. When a Tarot reader is telling you certain things about your life, the way to know if it is a direction you should go in is if what they are saying feels resonate to you. Does it feel good? Does it feel right in your gut?

A  Tarot reading should not leave you feeling disempowered. If you have gone to a Tarot reader asking something like ‘does he love me? Does he love his new girlfriend more than he loved me? Or ‘Will he come back to me?’ Then you are not taking full responsibility for your own happiness or life. If you need a Tarot reader to tell you something like this, you are disconnected from your own power and self confidence. Why do I say this? Because I know first hand! When I was doubting my connection to my true self, these are the kinds of questions I might have asked a Tarot reader. When I look back on that now I see how much I lacked confidence in myself and a connection to my inner being. A more constructive question to ask around this kind of relationship question is ‘What would be helpful to know about this relationship?’ And even better: ‘What do I need to learn about myself around this relationship?’

Life's a journey not a destinationTarot shows you future probabilities, not absolutes.

The value of a reading is also around probabilities. For example, gaining insight into a certain situation like ‘if I take this action, what might be the outcome?’ Or, “I am working on this….is there anything I would benefit knowing in order to make the best of it?’ See how these questions are driven by something you have already chosen to do rather than passively sitting back and letting someone else ‘tell’ you what your life is all about. You can still get value out of this passive approach, but a helpful way to see it is ‘if you don’t choose something different, this is likely to be the result’.

You decide first what you want, then use the Tarot and any other kind of divination tool to help maximise  what it is you are trying to achieve with some wisdom to help you along the way. And if by chance you have been given a reading where the news is bad, then use it as a way to identify what you don’t want and therefore enable you to figure out what you do want and then focus on that instead. Just because a reader said something to you doesn’t make it true-whether that be good news or bad news. At the end of the day, you make it true.

You can’t control what others will do.

However,when it comes to seeking information around other people in your life, keep in mind you can’t control what anyone else does-you can only hope to be an influence to other people, and the best way to be an influence is to be connected to your true self. If other people are a resonate match to your true self, they will naturally be in your life. So when you bring the focus back onto yourself where your happiness is not dependent on ‘that person coming back to you’ or ‘meeting that special someone’, you have taken responsibility for your life.

As hard as it is to imagine sometimes, we really do create from our present reality rather than blindly following some predestined plan for our lives. Sure, according to numerology and astrology and the like we may have some dominant vibratory patterns that influence us along the way just like our genetic coding from our parents, but they are not our destiny. Even mainstream science is confirming from the study of epigenetics that our biology is not our destiny and our gene expression is influenced by our lifestyle choices and even the habitual thoughts and emotions we ‘practice’ on a daily basis.

Taking full responsibility for your life.

But this knowledge is actually scary to some people as they realise they have to take full responsibility for their lives. As Marianne Williamson says ‘Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure”. And why would this be our deepest fear? Because it means we can no longer sit back and play a role where we are helpless and can do nothing about our circumstances. We actually have to do something!

Getting a Tarot reading can be very empowering.

So, at the core of it, a Tarot reading really is for entertainment purposes. This doesn’t mean it has no value. A good reading can be empowering and enlightening and help unlock your greatest potential, but it is not the final deciding factor of your life. YOU get to decide that with the information you have gained from the reading itself. As a general rule, if the information you have received feels good, then go towards that! But if it doesn’t feel good, use that information and decide what you would prefer instead and go towards that without doubts.

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8 thoughts on “Life’s a journey not a destination.”

  1. Michael Stanley Jr

    Great website.
    I am really interested in tarot and psychic. I went to a spiritual advisor when I was younger.
    It was a good experience that In my thoughts all was true and is or has happened.
    I was really impressed. I am also a believer in the phrase “there is no fate but the one we make.” And reading can help you see what path we are on so we can stay on that path or alter it.

  2. I really am impressed by this post. I guess my biggest take=away, that is the thing that impressed me most is best summed up by your header about halfway through…

    “Tarot shows you future probabilities, not absolutes”

    So whether one takes their reading seriously or for entertainment purposes, it’s nice to know that a predicition is not written in stone. That any outcome can be changed just by knowing the possibilities. We can only know what we know. The rest is up to us to apply that knowledge, if my understanding is correct.

    Thanks you for your insight.


    1. Hi Hal. Thanks for stopping by. Sometimes I think simply spending some time with an intention to come up with some solutions and being open to someone reflecting back your thoughts, you open up your mind to come to a greater understanding of your situation. From this organic solutions can flow. Thanks for your comment!

  3. Liz, thanks for this.
    There’s something to be said for timing too. That things come into your life when you’re ready for them – or when you need to learn a particular lesson. I’m probably at that point, which is why I enjoyed this post so much.
    It’s been a long time since I’ve had a tarot reading, and I’ve been half tempted to go now based on what’s been happening lately, but with those years since the last reading I’ve come around to the way of thinking you’re sharing. That we need to evaluate important things in terms of how they feel to us, whether they resonate, whether they are working for us. And maybe whether a certain approach has outlived its usefulness. I particularly like your quote by Marianne Williamson. It’s going to take some time to fully understand. But it’s important.
    Thanks for this food for thought.
    Much appreciated Liz.

  4. My pleasure Larry. Really glad you got some value out of this post. I think timing is important too. Sometimes you are just not ready to face certain things at certain times of life, and even if the answer is staring you in the face, you would not recognize it simply because you are where you are at that particular time.

  5. Beautiful site. I am very interested in tarot myself and besides just being a really lovely site, and a very personal site it has a lot of great information and inspiration. I like that it isn’t over cluttered with ads or like annoyingly pushy with sales, but more about the real stuff. Mind and body. Very simple and straight forward.

    1. Hey Bear, thanks for your lovely comments. I couldn’t stand the idea of ads on my site to be honest because apart from anything else, you have to have so much traffic in order for it to be worth it, and Tarot cards are so niche anyway and for a very select audience that I figured the site would just be better without them. So thanks for the validation around that!

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