I will continue on with my summary of the online course the Spiritual Laws Of Money by T Harv Eker in this post. Today the focus is week three of the eight week course. You can read about week two here, and week one here.
Week three of the Spiritual Laws of Money is all about how we go about achieving success at the same time as maintaining balance and staying happy while we take the journey to financial abundance. Questions that are addressed are:
‘I work too hard and too many hours. How can I keep a balanced lifestyle while still being successful?’
‘How do I enjoy the journey when I’m broke?’
‘How am I supposed to balance my life when my job requires 10-hour days or more?’
Be happy now.
The core message of this part of the course is that we need to stop postponing our happiness until a later date when we ‘finally’ arrive at what we perceive as success. For example, we think we will be happier once we don’t have to work anymore (eg retirement), or when we get that promotion, get the new job or are successful in that business, get married or have the baby. While these things can be a joyful event, they usually don’t stay joyful unless we have made joy and happiness a priority before these events occurred. We are creatures of habit and we tend to default back to a usual level of happiness (or lack of it) once these events have passed.
As the saying goes: ‘there is no way to happiness; happiness is the way’. There is some controversy as to who actually said this originally, but never the less, it is still timeless wisdom, and it has not really been until I took The Spiritual Laws Of Money that I have fully understood the quote.
Part of the challenge of being happy while we strive for some future goal is that many of us have forgotten how to be present. We have what T Harv Eker calls ‘should be here, should be there’ syndrome. In other words, we suffer from a constant feeling that we should be doing something in the present moment other than what we are doing. This results in much of our life not feeling like it is ‘quality’ life. We feel rushed, stressed, scattered and unsatisfied, and we think that if life could somehow be different in this moment, then we will feel better.
The Big Rocks Method.
Part of the solution according to Harv is to set your life up according to ‘The Big Rocks’ method. The big rocks method highlights that if you fill a glass jar with sand first, then try and put some gravel and water in it then finally some big rocks afterwards, you will not fit all these elements in. However, if you start with the big rocks first, then the gravel, then the sand and finally the water, everything will fit it.
It is a metaphor for deciding what our top priorities are first. The big rocks symbolize what things are most important to us and make life worth living which could be family, friends, exercise, eating healthy food and getting enough sleep. Work or business is not included here. So, we take out a calendar and look at our week ahead and schedule in what our big rocks are. The big rocks don’t have to take up a lot of time, but we are not to skip on them because they are our top priorities. Then, we fill in the rest of our time with all the other things we feel we need to do such as work and business activities etc.
I really liked this way of looking at what a balanced life looks like. If you know what your top priorities are, and you don’t skip them, then theoretically you will always feel like you are living in a balanced way on the way to success and not sacrificing family time or social life. Harv says:
“The universe is in balance, that means you have to be in balance and not put your life and your balance on hold while you strive for success for years…..the most important thing you will ever learn in your life is to ‘practice happiness now.”
Being successful doesn’t mean you will be happy.
Harv tells a story of how he had spent some time hanging out in a retirement village because he was living with his mum when he was in his early twenties. He would sit around the pool during some time off from striving for all his goals and would listen to the elderly chat around the pool. He said these were people who had become very successful and wealthy in their life and he had assumed that by this time they would be happy.
But, to his amazement all he heard from these people was complaint after complaint and this changed his perception of success forever. He had wrongly assumed that you are automatically happy once you achieve a certain level of success and these people demonstrated that this was not the case. He goes on to say we are creatures of habit and we are wiring our neurological pathways with our habitual thinking. This basically means if we haven’t practiced happiness along the way, we won’t even be happy once we achieve the success we think we want.
As a very goal driven person, I find myself having to re-think the way I am approaching everything. I definitely suffer from the ‘should be here should be there’ syndrome, and so taking this course was a big wake up call to change my approach. This also reminds me of the teachings of Abraham who basically has the same message. You have to find a good feeling place in order to work towards your goals with more ease and less stress, and by doing so you will find success much more easily and actually enjoy it when you get there.
What are your big rocks?
So what are your big rocks? Mine would be spending quality time with my partner and daughter as well as other family, taking my dog for a walk, meditation and exercise as well as preparing healthy food, spending some time with friends and writing in a journal. These are the things that keep me in balance.
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