Tarot Cards For Love

When people go and get a tarot reading, they are usually consulting the Tarot cards for love and advice about career. They commonly want to know if they will get back together with their ex, or they will find new love soon, or how they can make their current relationship better.

In terms of career, they want to know if they will get a new job soon, whether or not they should stay in their current job, or they are currently unhappy with their job and want ideas on what else they could do. Some people just want to know what they might be good at that they may not know about so they can start moving in that direction.

Tarot Cards for loveThe mistaken belief of what Tarot is.

Often people are coming from a mistaken point of view that they are powerless to create the life they want and their fate is written in stone. They want to know ‘What is on my cards?’ as if it is some predetermined destiny they are heading towards.  So, they just want a quick confirmation that things will work out ok. It is understandable, and before I began to read Tarot cards for others, I am guilty of approaching Tarot readers in the same way!

But this is one of the least effective ways to approach the Tarot. The truth is, I don’t believe anyone can truly predict your future, because I believe we are co-creators in our life, and there are many things we can control where we might believe we have no control over. What a Tarot card reader can help you with is unearthing some options you may not have considered in solving the problem you are wanting more clarity over.

Why does Tarot reading actually work?

To be honest, I ask myself this on a regular basis. I am continually amazed when someone comes to me and asks a bunch of questions and I lay out my cards in a relevant formation to the question, and am able to accurately tell them about their life in the context of the question. I do not consider myself psychic more than the next person (I do believe we all have psychic abilities to a certain extent, but it is not something I have tried to actively develop in myself). However, what I have done is spent a considerable amount of time learning about the traditional meanings of each card, as well as contemplating the personal meanings of each card to my own life, and am able to apply the story of each card to their life.

The mechanism of exactly how Tarot works is unclear, and has been hotly debated over centuries. But I do know it has been very useful for helping to solve some my clients problems and anxieties. I find the subject very exciting about what it might mean for the field of quantum physics, the interconnected nature of the universe and how we might use it as a positive tool for good. The randomness of shuffling the cards and laying them out in a particular formation would appear to some as an absurd way of solving anyone’s source of pain, however, I suspect Carl Jung, one of the towering figures of modern psychology has some answers to this.

Tarot Cards for loveCarl Jung-the collective unconscious and synchronicity.

Carl Jung talks a lot about synchronicity and the collective unconscious in his work. He believed that synchronicity was the ‘acausal connection of two or more psycho-physic phenomena’. So to put this in the context of a Tarot reading, certain cards are revealed during a reading where the reader is able to accurately interpret them for the querrant (the person asking the questions) because there is synchronicity at play during the reading. They have shown up at a particular time and chosen a particular Tarot reader who has revealed certain cards at that particular time-space moment. The pictures on the cards represent the psycho-physic phenomena. For a more detailed read on Jung and Tarot cards, click here to read the blog of Mary K Greer who has done some in depth research on Jung and the Tarot.

In terms of where the collective unconscious comes into play, this is where Tarot shines because the meaning of Tarot cards tap into common psychological themes throughout humanity, therefore every card is going to be relevant to each person at one stage or another because of our reoccuring patterns throughout the world. The pictures on the cards dredge up unconscious beliefs and patterns the querrant may not be aware of at that time, and the revealing of them can help unblock the person to feel empowered to take some positive steps moving forward.

Best practices for approaching questions about love.

In order to get the best answers from anything in life whether than be Tarot cards or something else, we need to ask the best questions. Ask a crappy question and you are likely to get a crappy answer. So when clients come to me and ask ‘When am I going to meet my soul mate?’ This question assumes there is something written in the sky suggesting that their destiny is predetermined, and they are hooking into the stereo type that Tarot readers are fortune tellers.

I gently nudge them into the idea they have more power over their destiny than they realise. I am up front with them and tell them that is not something I can predict accurately by looking at cards. What I can do is find out what would help them be ready for a healthy relationship that would be ideal for them. I can look at some unconscious elements running in their life that may be impeding their progress around relationships in general and what steps they can take that will leave them feeling happier in themselves as well as more confident in general.

How I use timelines to judge when to take an action.

When a client is really insistent on knowing when a certain thing will take place, I will lay out four cards, left to right, where one represents 3 months, the next represents 6 months, then the next 9 months and then 12 months and beyond. I look at all these cards in a row and look at which one comes across as the strongest card in relation to the themes that have come up during the over all reading. Even though I feel these ‘predictions’ are not set in stone, I do feel it gives the client some probabilities to work with. However, it is definitely not the main part of my Tarot reading practice.

Tarot Cards for loveThe part we can’t control.

Even though I very much err on the side of believing we have control of our fate and destiny, I do still feel there are some things in life that are of a more fixed nature. For example, we are born with certain genes, and we can make the most of those genes, or squander our health by the lifestyle choices we make. When we are born on a certain day, month and year, with a particular name, according to the practice of numerology we can work out certain character traits that persons character is ‘vibrating’ at based on their numbers which are made up from their date of birth and full name. It is said that numbers are the language of the universe, and numerology taps into that.

I have studied numerology a little and have even had my own chart analysed and it has proven very useful to me to understand my core nature better and why I seem to have a certain tendency towards certain things. Once again, I don’t believe numerology can truly predict our future, but it can show us our tendencies about our character and life path so far, and how we might make the most of our unique talents and not let our weaknesses get the better of us.

What are your thoughts around Tarot cards for love? Feel free to comment below and let me know!




17 thoughts on “Tarot Cards For Love”

  1. Hi Liz,

    I absolutely loved your article, it was such a good reading!
    I’ve had a girlfriend once who read the Tarot cards, she was very talented, I couldn’t believe it! I don’t see her anymore because I left the country where we’ve met. She was Spanish and to tell you the truth, she was very weird sometimes. However, I believe that some people have inexplicable supernatural powers as well as well developed instincts. I personally don’t believe in Tarots, but more in the person itself, as I said it, some people can feel others and even see through them more than anyone else. Well, it’s not my case, I am a kind of blind person:) Joking!
    Thank you for this excellent article!

    1. Hey Daniella,

      Thanks for comment! I think you might be surprised by your own abilities if you were interested in tapping into them. But just depends on how you want to spend your time. In terms of ‘believing’ in Tarot, well, each Tarot card is just a story in itself, so depends on whether you find value in stories in order to find more meaning in your own life.

      Really glad you enjoyed the article! Thanks for visiting.

  2. I’ve heard of tarot cards and just assumed that they were another ‘fortune teller’ trick and never gave it much thought after that. I liked your post and it made me think about tarot differently.

    I really liked that you put it out there that this is not something is used to predict the future. I believe that we all have some influence on our life and nothing is written in stone.

    I liked your description of numerology as well. That sounds like something I’d like to learn more about and I clicked the link to it in your article. I enjoyed that very much. Can you suggest any other good resources for learning more about numerology?

  3. What an excellent article and exactly what I needed. You see, I used to have the notion that my fate was set in stone and nothing was interchangeable because it was predetermined before I arrived here. Over time I realised how this belief was hindering my life and It took me some time to change it.

    And the funny thing is today, of all days, I find my mind wanting to return to what I once knew and your post has allowed me to see how crazy is to think that I can’t change my life. I can and it’s because I choose to. Thank you, Liz!

    1. What a synchronistic ever for you Amberlee! Glad you found it useful. Thanks for visiting

  4. That is a great article and very well written.

    I do believe we are all interconnected and our energies converge with others and our surroundings.

    So it was great to see how you explained how Tarot Readings tap into this and how you interpret the cards.

    We have all grown up with stereotypes of this sort of service and that creates a prejudice whether we realise it or not.

    I am a believer in what you describe as synchronicity or “when you are ready the teacher will come” as this happens to me when I am really ready to make a change.

    Thank you Liz

    1. Thanks for your comment Wade! Yes I am a firm believer of “when you are ready the teacher will come” too. Even I feel that inner prejudice sometimes against the things I am interested in which sometimes makes it hard to express who I am fully for fear of being judged. It is an ongoing process of self acceptance.

  5. TimothyGagnon

    Pretty interesting article Liz and very well-written too! I’m not really into Tarot cards but I do know that they can be a help to people when are looking for some answers.

    Then again, they can create more anxiety for people.

    For example, my ex girlfriend went to a Tarot card reader with her sister and the reading said that her sister will find a lover soon but she won’t find one soon.

    Still, it’s interesting and I would definitely like to try it sometime! Awesome article!

    1. Hi Timothy,

      Thanks for your comment. I agree that a Tarot reading can cause some anxiety for people if they go away with a reading they didn’t like. I personally would not be telling someone they are not going to meet anyone soon, because I just think that timelines are really hazy in the spiritual/energy world. I think it is much more productive to focus on what a person could do in order to be ready for the love of their life to enter into the picture. I really try and stay away from trying to predict when someone will meet someone as much as possible, because it either leads to a false sense of empowerment, or one of dis-empowerment. At best, I feel the Tarot should be used for personal growth and for exploring probabilities.

  6. Irina Serdyukova

    i really love your post! And i love the angle you approach in your tarot reading practice! The way I see it, when you read tarot line up for someone you read their predominant energy pattern, which is, you are right, not a destiny, but more so a ‘probability’ of certain events come to play if the person’s energy is going to stay intact. Ive had a friend of mine read tarot for me before and it was pretty accurate on present situation, the nearest future, but i don’t believe either you can predict somebody’s destiny as we always evolve. Interesting fact- since then i learned to read omens that universe sends to us constantly, which lets me to interpret my own energy patterns and see if i am on the right path. Also it doesn’t look like you believe in mystics-dark forces, witches and forces of light. I came all the way from Russia, and in Russia tarot is widely viewed as witches’ trade as well as palm reading. My friend who was reading tarot before used to go to this known older witch in town to get rid of the spell that was induced on her husband and their marriage, they went through a very hard times at the time, so the witch told her that tarot reader serves as a bridge, a sort of port between 2 worlds, and its not recommended to be that bridge if you are not ready to pay the price. In Russia there’s popular belief if you step on the path of witchcraft you pay the price- for example you are not going to be able to have a healthy personal relationships and a love life yourself. Im not trying to scare you, lol, but what are your thoughts? did you hear smth like that before? Superstitions?

    1. HI Irina, thanks for your extensive comment. There is a lot of superstition hemmed up in Tarot cards and I honestly think it just comes down to what your personal beliefs are. For example, if you believe in ghosts, then you will probably see one at some stage in your life, or claim you have seen one. If you believe in dark forces, you are probably more likely to encounter them. It is not that I believe or disbelieve in these things, but at the end of the day these things are just not something I am interested in. I am interested in helping people, and to me, the Tarot is just a bunch of stories on cards and highlight dominant patterns throughout history. I do believe there is some kind of quantum field involved and I agree with your phrase ‘predominant energy pattern’ (in fact I think I might start using that term now-thanks for that!), but I am certainly not going to pretend to know how that works. I think if anyone claims they understand that, they are essentially saying they have all the understanding of the way the universe works-which to me, sounds a little grandiose.

      In terms of your friend-I can’t help but feel they were having problems because she believed there was a spell on her husband, not because there actually was. But who am I to say? Maybe there really was. Since I have been reading Tarot cards more seriously, my relationship has actually improved with my partner because it actually gives me some tools to work with when we encounter conflict. At the end of the day, I just feel that whatever you pay attention to, the energy of that thing grows. I am just not going to go down that path. I just want to focus on the stories on the cards in order to help people make some choices with a little more clarity.

      I really enjoyed your comment and it was definitely food for thought! Thanks for visiting.

  7. Hi Liz, I come from a protestant background where we’ve always been taught that tarot cards have spiritual aspect to them / or the tarot reader. Please enlighten me if I am wrong. Perhaps you can tell us more about this in another post some time. I look forward to reading it.

    Finding true love, the right life partner, what is God’s will… They seem to ask the same questions in my context (church) as people do in yours. Reading your blog i see that there’s a lot of common sense being applied strongly in your approach, which is really great and that’s the way to go. Too many people are searching for answers externally when really the answer lies within.

    1. Hello Raja, yes historically Tarot cards do have a spiritual aspect to them, and they have a lot of references to Christianity in terms of symbolism, as well as other traditions. But in a nutshell, Tarot cards are stories on a card-just like any kind of religious text or great literature we can learn from their archetypes. Different readers hold them in different lights, so it just depends on what your belief system is. Thanks for your comment. 🙂

  8. I have heard of Tarot card reading before but never had any knowledge about how it worked and what it was really about. I do believe in beings that have more spiritual connections than others and I don’t see why a Tarot reader could not be considered one. I really enjoyed your article and wish you all the best.


  9. Hi Liz, I am really enjoying your posts – the titles are eye-catching and the content is really engaging. This one caught my eye because tarot card readings are something I turn to when I need a different perspective on a relationship problem. I like that you offered ways to ask good questions, as I am always at a loss how to ask better questions to get better answers. Thanks, and I look forward to more posts like these frm you! 🙂

    1. Thanks Lily! One of the main things people turn to Tarot cards for is advice on relationships I find, and the Tarot just helps to give that different perspective so the right side of your brain can help with some solutions.

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