When people go and get a tarot reading, they are usually consulting the Tarot cards for love and advice about career. They commonly want to know if they will get back together with their ex, or they will find new love soon, or how they can make their current relationship better.

In terms of career, they want to know if they will get a new job soon, whether or not they should stay in their current job, or they are currently unhappy with their job and want ideas on what else they could do. Some people just want to know what they might be good at that they may not know about so they can start moving in that direction.

Tarot Cards for loveThe mistaken belief of what Tarot is.

Often people are coming from a mistaken point of view that they are powerless to create the life they want and their fate is written in stone. They want to know ‘What is on my cards?’ as if it is some predetermined destiny they are heading towards.  So, they just want a quick confirmation that things will work out ok. It is understandable, and before I began to read Tarot cards for others, I am guilty of approaching Tarot readers in the same way!

But this is one of the least effective ways to approach the Tarot. The truth is, I don’t believe anyone can truly predict your future, because I believe we are co-creators in our life, and there are many things we can control where we might believe we have no control over. What a Tarot card reader can help you with is unearthing some options you may not have considered in solving the problem you are wanting more clarity over.

Why does Tarot reading actually work?

To be honest, I ask myself this on a regular basis. I am continually amazed when someone comes to me and asks a bunch of questions and I lay out my cards in a relevant formation to the question, and am able to accurately tell them about their life in the context of the question. I do not consider myself psychic more than the next person (I do believe we all have psychic abilities to a certain extent, but it is not something I have tried to actively develop in myself). However, what I have done is spent a considerable amount of time learning about the traditional meanings of each card, as well as contemplating the personal meanings of each card to my own life, and am able to apply the story of each card to their life.

The mechanism of exactly how Tarot works is unclear, and has been hotly debated over centuries. But I do know it has been very useful for helping to solve some my clients problems and anxieties. I find the subject very exciting about what it might mean for the field of quantum physics, the interconnected nature of the universe and how we might use it as a positive tool for good. The randomness of shuffling the cards and laying them out in a particular formation would appear to some as an absurd way of solving anyone’s source of pain, however, I suspect Carl Jung, one of the towering figures of modern psychology has some answers to this.

Tarot Cards for loveCarl Jung-the collective unconscious and synchronicity.

Carl Jung talks a lot about synchronicity and the collective unconscious in his work. He believed that synchronicity was the ‘acausal connection of two or more psycho-physic phenomena’. So to put this in the context of a Tarot reading, certain cards are revealed during a reading where the reader is able to accurately interpret them for the querrant (the person asking the questions) because there is synchronicity at play during the reading. They have shown up at a particular time and chosen a particular Tarot reader who has revealed certain cards at that particular time-space moment. The pictures on the cards represent the psycho-physic phenomena. For a more detailed read on Jung and Tarot cards, click here to read the blog of Mary K Greer who has done some in depth research on Jung and the Tarot.

In terms of where the collective unconscious comes into play, this is where Tarot shines because the meaning of Tarot cards tap into common psychological themes throughout humanity, therefore every card is going to be relevant to each person at one stage or another because of our reoccuring patterns throughout the world. The pictures on the cards dredge up unconscious beliefs and patterns the querrant may not be aware of at that time, and the revealing of them can help unblock the person to feel empowered to take some positive steps moving forward.

Best practices for approaching questions about love.

In order to get the best answers from anything in life whether than be Tarot cards or something else, we need to ask the best questions. Ask a crappy question and you are likely to get a crappy answer. So when clients come to me and ask ‘When am I going to meet my soul mate?’ This question assumes there is something written in the sky suggesting that their destiny is predetermined, and they are hooking into the stereo type that Tarot readers are fortune tellers.

I gently nudge them into the idea they have more power over their destiny than they realise. I am up front with them and tell them that is not something I can predict accurately by looking at cards. What I can do is find out what would help them be ready for a healthy relationship that would be ideal for them. I can look at some unconscious elements running in their life that may be impeding their progress around relationships in general and what steps they can take that will leave them feeling happier in themselves as well as more confident in general.

How I use timelines to judge when to take an action.

When a client is really insistent on knowing when a certain thing will take place, I will lay out four cards, left to right, where one represents 3 months, the next represents 6 months, then the next 9 months and then 12 months and beyond. I look at all these cards in a row and look at which one comes across as the strongest card in relation to the themes that have come up during the over all reading. Even though I feel these ‘predictions’ are not set in stone, I do feel it gives the client some probabilities to work with. However, it is definitely not the main part of my Tarot reading practice.

Tarot Cards for loveThe part we can’t control.

Even though I very much err on the side of believing we have control of our fate and destiny, I do still feel there are some things in life that are of a more fixed nature. For example, we are born with certain genes, and we can make the most of those genes, or squander our health by the lifestyle choices we make. When we are born on a certain day, month and year, with a particular name, according to the practice of numerology we can work out certain character traits that persons character is ‘vibrating’ at based on their numbers which are made up from their date of birth and full name. It is said that numbers are the language of the universe, and numerology taps into that.

I have studied numerology a little and have even had my own chart analysed and it has proven very useful to me to understand my core nature better and why I seem to have a certain tendency towards certain things. Once again, I don’t believe numerology can truly predict our future, but it can show us our tendencies about our character and life path so far, and how we might make the most of our unique talents and not let our weaknesses get the better of us.

What are your thoughts around Tarot cards for love? Feel free to comment below and let me know!