The Spiritual Laws of Money-T Harv Eker course review, week 2.
A while back I began T Harv Eker’s online course where he teaches about wealth creation in the context of spirituality and helps people to overcome their blocks to not only financial abundance, but also to general abundance in life. In the first week of the course he helps the class participants to recognize whether or not they have an inbuilt block to wealth creation. You can read about the first week here, where I did a basic outline of the kinds of questions he asks.
Money and Spirituality.
Through the first week of the course which explores the topic of ‘Money and Spirituality’, I realised that I did in fact have some blocks to abundance I had not looked square in the face. Harv asks some probing questions to see whether money is something you feel uncomfortable about on an unconscious level without realising it, as well as exploring whether or not you have an inner conflict between spirituality and abundance.
Money, Self-worth and Deservedness.
In the second week titled ‘Money, Self -worth and Deservedness’, Harv first of all spends a good 20 minutes or so drilling people as to whether or not they had done the homework from the first week. The homework was simply to say 5 sets of affirmations to yourself which were ‘I am kind, loving, peaceful and rich’ 3 times each session. This was pretty much the main homework there was to do. I will admit, I did not do the homework for the first week, as my inner resistance baulked at doing affirmations. ‘Too simple’ I thought.
Are you willing to do what it takes to be successful in a chosen area of your life?
However, Harv makes the point in the second week that the homework was simply a test to see who would do it. He remarks that if you are unwilling to take simple instructions like saying 7 words to yourself three times for a total of five times a day from someone you want to learn from in order to increase your wealth and abundance, then you will not find the success you are looking for in your financial life, because getting rich (whatever you define rich to be) is much harder than saying a few words to yourself daily. Ok, point taken. He says by refusing to do a simple task like this, you are in a way saying ‘my way is better’. But he states-“where has ‘your way’ got you so far? And didn’t you sign up for the course to better your situation?”
The way you do one thing, is the way you do everything.
His over all message throughout the course is ‘the way you do one thing, is how you do everything’. For example, if you are the kind of person to buy courses and skim through them and consume all the information but take very little action on what you learned, then that is generally how you approach the rest of your life too. You may be very interested in learning, but when it comes to doing, not so much. He said if you did some of the homework but not all of it, then that is an indication you are going to be somewhat successful.
I thought about the way I do something basic like brush my teeth-hurried, some skipped areas, and not very consciously. I realised, this is the way I approach a lot of things in life-hurried, cutting corners and not being present in the moment. ‘Hmmmm…’ I thought. This is hitting home a bit.
The Movie ‘The Secret’.
He had some scathing remarks about the movie ‘The Secret’ where the impression is given that if you just sit there and meditate and visualise that a pile of money is just going to land in your lap, it will. He says the major missing ingredient to that movie is the doing part. The whole point of visualising and meditating about a particular desired outcome is to influence your mind and body to get you into the motivated state to take action. And doing affirmations daily is no different to this idea.
Self worth check.
After the homework lecture (which I feel is actually one of the most valuable lessons in the course about the way you approach life), self worth and self esteem become the main topic. Harv goes onto explain that many people who have self esteem issues feel that on some level they deserve to be punished for something, and this begins from the way we were brought up as children. For example, we were told as kids that if we didn’t do a certain thing that our parents wanted us to do, that we wouldn’t get the cookie or the toy. This was reinforced over and over to us, and we took this into adulthood, where we ourselves become the punisher rather than our parents for not doing something right. This happens on an unconscious level and results in not allowing ourselves to be successful in some things that are very important to us, because we feel on some level that we don’t deserve it.
It is not what other people say that is important.
Harv says it is important to forgive the shortcomings of the people who bought us up because they had our best interests at heart. He implores that the main thing that is important now is NOT what other people say to you, but what you say to yourself. He then challenges the class to write down what the positive aspects are of ourselves, and to focus on them daily by sticking them up on a wall where we can see it everyday. And, once again, he challenges the class if they feel resistant to doing this then what are they doing in the class? He delivers tough love, and reminds us that doing it ‘our way’ is what has lead to our current results. He is not saying this in any arrogant way; he is only reminding us why we signed up for the course in the first place.
We are creatures of habit.
I’ll admit I felt very resistant to doing this once more. But Harv simply asks that we suspend our judgement for the duration of the 8 week course and do what he says and if by the end of the course we think it is not working for us, then we can revert back to doing it our way. This was reinforced over and over again, and it really hit home with me how resistant generally we are as people to change. We want things to be different often, yet we are so ingrained in our own habits that change becomes very difficult if we are not willing to be flexible. As the old saying goes ‘The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result’.
The mind as a protective mechanism.
The final topics of week two of the course focused on how the mind works and why we are so prone to focusing on the negative elements in life rather than the positive. Harv goes on to explain that our mind basically operates in a way to protect us. In our hunter gatherer days we had to constantly scan the environment for threats to our survival, and our brain still works in this way today. The mind does not care about success, it just cares about keeping the body alive. So, anything that seems new and unfamiliar to us feels like a threat to our mind, and even if we feel unhappy with our current circumstances, the mind is familiar to this because all it sees is that you are still alive, and that is its main purpose.
The secret to life is all about the stories we choose to believe about ourselves.
Harv then goes onto talk about how we make up stories in our life and choose to believe them. He goes onto say that whatever we tell ourselves over and over we end up believing, so we might as well make up a story that supports us rather than hinders us. He says that we live in an abundant universe, and the only thing that gets in our way in experiencing abundance is ourselves. When we choose a new story to believe about ourselves, things change for us, and this can work either in a positive way or a negative way depending on the story we choose. He states that there is no ultimate truth for us-only the stories we tell ourselves, and the way to choose the story is to ask if the story supports our growth or hinders it.
For example, we may say to ourselves ‘Oh I am terrible with remembering people’s names.’ Well, you may be, but your brain is an amazing thing, and if you made it your absolute priority to remember people’s names, you would. The point is, if you can’t remember people’s names all the time, you actually don’t care enough to remember people’s names. This is neither right or wrong, but asking whether or not is serves you is the the real question here.
My results so far.
So this week I began writing 3 things each night that I did well during the day. I also decided to take it further regarding the ‘making up stories thing’ and write down three things that I appreciate about my partner each day so my mind shifts over to focusing more on his positives than his negatives. Over the course of a week our relationship has got better, and my mind has expanded and started noticing new opportunities where I did not see before. So, as simple as all this stuff may initially appear, it does work. It is important which story we are going to focus on.